What’s in a name?

In an effort to not get sued we have vowed to use no real names and I must say that just kills me because looking back at the names of guys I have dated…I should have known better.

Seriously, I apparently have a thing for guys with crazy porn star-esque names. Actually one of them does share the name of one of the most prolific male porn stars of our time. Then there were the two with such blatant Red Flag names that I had to spell them out for people because they couldn’t believe I would date someone with such a name- mostly because they were more adjectives(or were they adverbs?) than actual names. And I cannot forget to mention the huge Red Flag- the boy named Sue- well not really Sue but he totally had a girl’s name.

Now I know, I know- that it is horrible to make such an assumption but hey, if it looks like a duck, walks like a duck and is named duck- it is a duck! And Yes- I do judge books by their covers and I have the cutest most color coordinated bookshelves because of it!

What it’s all about…

The books have been written and the movies made; we know when he’s just not that into us, that it is called a break-up because it is broken, we have even explored the deal breakers… but what if it didn’t have to come that. What if we actually recognized the Red Flags waving in front of our faces before we got sucked in, before we fell in love, before we got our hearts broken?

Dating in our teens and early twenties was fun, we enjoyed it and let the failures roll off our backs, but once we hit our mid-twenties and entered the “grown-up” world something changed… the failed relationships and bad mistakes were no longer just a funny story for Sunday brunch but they were failures, they were “I should have known better” moments.

After dating a zillion or so boys I truly should know better at this point but yet here I am still saying “I should have known better.” After endless bottles of wine and fabulous Sunday brunches of hearing everyone else’s “I should have known better” stories the idea struck- what if we actually learned from each other’s Red Flag experiences? So it may not be a happily ever after for me but if my Red Flag opens someone else’s eyes then it certainly is not a failure…